The Perfectionist

A long yack with my 'little girl' today left my head expanding and constricting into different sizes. Though the 'little girl' has aged into a 23-year-old hag trying to live a life of a 50-year-old established corporate personnel, but paid an exec's wage, and has a work load of a director, and a mentality of a divorced 30-year-old, having the health of a run-down stock broker (bloodtest results showed that she has high blood pressure, and also a cholestrol reading that is higher than my parents'), running a deficit in her finances, AND... still declares to herself that she wants to be a millionaire by the time she hits the roaring 30s. By the way, she's been hospitalised, has bags under her eyes, still having fever for the past 2 weeks, and a bad cough that refuses to go away... and she's still not slowing down.... slogging away with all the work she brought back from the office.

For heaven's sake, this is the weekend! She has decided not to continue to just having 3 hours' sleep at the max per day in the 5th week, running in a row!!! Ummm... and she believes that 'work' is a priority in life because ' I am a 'perfectionist' and I am not contented with what I have now'.

Please, someone out there, knock and shake some sense into that 'little girl'!

*Sigh* I'm not saying that 'live like a contented cow', but 'live your life in your own stride by discerning and reading signs, AND having a check and balance in as you walk along life's pathway'.

What's all the great big hurry to make it 'really, really BIG'? What's there to be so unsatisfied about when you are doing much better than anyone else who is your age? What's there to proof by defying facts of life?

Living beyond her means, working beyond her body could take the stress... aren't these all signs and sickness of a city lifestyle? Who controls this? Who drives one to this?

My opinion? At most times, the stress we experience living in the city and having a city job could be self-induced! We create our own sickness at times! Having to survive this city lifestyle, we are not only required to have some knowledge or time-management, but also self-confidence and REALITY CHECK! As for making mistakes, and having to fail every now and then, and having little glories, and bla bla bla... who has not been through it? Didn't we have to 'learn' to realise that 'rushing' spells trouble? Every human can NEVER be exempted from going through the same ol' mill of having to submit to 'time' and having to grow in his/her own stride. Don't like the sound of it that we cannot have everything our own way? Too bad... that's reality!

Wanting it all, having a full experience of everything is all about 'not losing face' and 'not missing out' in life. So, what on earth is this mentality all about? How did the crazy idea of having to proof and debunk all proven facts that 'I can make a difference' came about? How can one ever be so blinded and deafened to blinking warnings in RED such as lethargy, feeling burned out, and falling sick? Pushing and testing oneself to the breaking point... BUT not realising that by doing this, one is living by someone else's expectations and setting fictitious unattainable goals!

It's all in the name of materialism... all that greed and 'face value' involved... making the mind conceited and 'afraid of losing out in life'... *sigh* Is this the mentality amongst our young adults these days? All madly materialistic, power-crazy, money-obsessed, competitiveness in getting ahead at all times, setting unrealistic goals, pushing oneself beyond the limitations of what the body can take.... Grrrrr.... Where is the reality check? Wait... when does 'reality' set into one's life? Whatever happened to checking and balancing - BEING SENSIBLE?

Yes, being 'sensible' doesn't mean that you lead a boring life. By the way, who don't negate the word 'patience', 'being sensible' and 'careful' as being a no lifer! It's all one's perception, and putting the mind to good use to find traces of joy and excitement in pacing things out - planning realistically.

Who doesn't enjoy a little excitement in life? Who doesn't love toe-curling thrills? Who doesn't take an occasional risk just to see where things lead to? Who hasn't dabbled with adventures? The key here is 'take calculated risks'! Have a discerning mind, train oneself up! No time? Find time! As long as we have the ability to use our eyes and ears, 'Watch' and 'listen' first, then 'jump'! Sometimes it requires us to crawl, or walk, or just stand still... not be impatient and make emotive decisions by putting every single thing to the test!

DO we ever live long enough to put ourselves to experiment and try everything in life? Hell, NO! We don't live long enough, that's when advice we hear and examples we see in life comes in handy! God didn't give us a pair of eyes and a pair of ears for no reason! It's to help us see better and hear better! I'm not talking about being paranoid that 'bad things will happen' when we fail to take in advice or see examples... I'm talking about timing, discernment on when to accelerate, and when to slow down in life... reading signs, trusting your gut feelings, and most of all - understand the self.

We learn a in our own stride of things around us, and even or ourselves! How can anyone be a 'perfect' since we are always on the learning curve? One can definitely try! How about trying to get there... I mean, in the making, or becoming, or wanting to be 'perfect'? As for achieving the goals of being a 'perfectionist'? I don't think anyone did succeed on that one. Even the most careful being that makes well-thought decisions can still make mistakes. Ah... proves that we are humans afterall!